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The higher your level of success, the more challenging dating tends to be.
I’ve always harbored this notion that climbing the ladder of success would broaden dating horizons. But, to my surprise, the reality is quite the contrary. The pool of potential partners doesn’t expand; it shrinks. Why? Because, let’s face it, who wants to date a nobody? While it’s often thought that women prefer to date ‘up’ and men ‘down’, the reality is more complex. High-status individuals, irrespective of gender, face their own set of dating challenges.
Busy Schedules are a Myth.
Many attribute the dating woes of successful people to their packed schedules. But that’s an oversimplification. Sure, time is a scarce commodity for us, but if dating is a priority, people make time for it. The real issue surfaces when our efforts to accommodate aren’t reciprocated. I’ve called off dates because I felt unappreciated or sensed a lack of effort from the other side (Mainly one-word responses). Time, for us, is not just a resource; it’s a currency. Effort is an effective love language in my opinion. No effort yells to me “My time is more valuable than yours” or “I don’t respect your time and efforts”.
